Jealousy is a poison to a Lover-Partner relationship.
It can be slow acting or fast acting. Sometimes it results in violence.
In time, jealousy often also results in a relationship termination.
There are at least two parties to every jealousy equation: the jealous
person and their behaviors, and the recipient of the jealous behaviors.
Sometimes there is cause; that is, a partner really is playing around.
But perhaps just as frequently, there is no real cause. The ‘cause’ is
imaginary - due to ingrained fears within the jealous person.
Some individuals experience jealousy frequently in their relationships.
Others never experience jealousy. That means that jealousy is not
‘hard-wired’ into humans. Jealousy is a learned behavior derived from
cultures that mandate so-called ‘Partner-Ownership’.
The concept of Partner-Ownership and resultant jealousy cannot be
understood outside the framework of the Romantic Ideal which began
circa 1200 AD in England. It all started with a single fairy tale.
But understanding the causes of jealousy is not as important as learning
how to deal with – even eliminate - jealous behaviors. It’s the behaviors
that can frequently destroy relationships.
We’ll also examine the two Love Organizations where partner-ownership -
possessiveness - jealousy doesn’t exist – because there is no need. Life
without jealousy is pleasant.
Spend a few bucks – be reading in minutes. It’s a lot cheaper and a lot
less grief than saying goodbye to your partner – and starting to welcome
‘Aloneness’ to your life again.
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